Kay Ingamells

Kay Ingamells

Counsellor | Family Therapist | Clinical Supervisor | Life Coach

Online Therapy Available

Next available Wednesday, Nov 30th


Online Therapy


My approach is optimistic, creative and fun! Yes, it is possible to have fun in therapy conversations! Since 2003 I have been trained one-on-one and supervised by David Epston, one of the world’s leading therapists, and the co-inventor of Narrative Therapy. I have also co-taught with David all over the world and currently run a training programme in advanced narrative therapy with David and Dr Tom Carlson. Too often people come to see themselves as the problems that are bothering them. We wonder ‘what’s wrong with me’, ‘why can’t I deal with this when everybody else seems too’, I feel as if I am the only one who suffers in this way’, ‘why can’t I just snap out of it, etc., etc. The truth is that problems very often have much less to do with us than we think. In a culture dominated by the idea that the individual is king (or queen,) we are taught that problems are not only a reflection of us as people and have nothing to do with wider issues or society and that we should deal with them on our own. I prefer to see problems as stories. These ‘problem stories’ often become so overwhelming that they consume us, take over our hearts and minds, and we find it almost impossible to separate ourselves from them. This is where narrative therapy comes in. Narrative questions tease the problem apart and make room for the person who has been pushed into the background. I bring questions which disrupt problem stories and help you to access your own wisdom and expertise so that you can disentangle yourself from problems and see yourself more clearly! I have published widely about my work and present regularly at conferences at home and internationally. I have taught therapy and counselling at undergraduate and postgraduate level for ten years. I am a full member of the New Zealand Association of Counsellors (NZAC) I am also a trained family therapist, child therapist and Journey Practitioner.


BScEcon hons,MSW



Client Type

adolescents, adults, children, couples, families, gender diverse, groups

Therapy Type

response based therapy, strength based therapy, solution focused therapy, mindfulness, collaborative therapy, family systems, online therapy, narrative therapy


  • addiction

  • anxiety

  • behavioural issues

  • body image and eating disorders

  • break up and divorce

  • burnout

  • career change

  • child behaviour and development

  • chronic disease

  • childhood trauma

  • communication skills

  • death and dying

  • depression

  • crisis management

  • family issues

  • feeling stuck

  • goal setting

  • grief

  • grief and loss

  • insecurities

  • life changes

  • loneliness and isolation

  • mental health and wellbeing

  • motivation and purpose

  • parenting

  • personal development

  • abuse

  • affairs

  • phobias

  • sleep issues

  • social anxiety

  • self esteem and confidence

  • relationship issues

  • alcohol or drug recovery

  • self harm

  • work-life balance

  • anger management

  • workplace issues

  • sexual abuse


One hour Counselling or Family Therapy Session


$165 NZD

First Session


$245 NZD

Or free if your organisation uses Clearhead to provide wellbeing support

Funding Options

I Am Hope


nib foundation